Naturally Kish

July 16, 2013

This isn’t new for me

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HEY SUGAHS!!!!!! LOL  I know it’s been a while since I’ve posted and I know I keep saying “imma do better”. I will do better, eventually.  But for the here and now let’s get into it.

I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting over the past couple of months.  Reflecting about….LIFE!!!! There have been some significant life changing events that have occurred over the past few months and things have not been the same since.  Not to get too detailed but just know, when you get out of your own way, things start to happen positively.  I deemed 2012 the year of “Sh*t or get off the pot.  Well I bought in 2013 still sitting on that proverbial pot.  And then the light bulb went off – Sugah (talking to myself) you can’t keep doing this to yourself.  You are better than this.

I actually began to believe those statements.  And Lord the blessings began to flow from there.  And they continue to flow.  I’m a firm believer that GOD places people in your life for specific reasons and I know the people that have a lasting spot in my life are there to help me become ME.  And for that I am grateful.

Ok, let’s fast forward.  The title of this post is “This isn’t new for me”.  I was reflecting on my current passion to become community involved and I started thinking “Where in the hell did this come from”? lol  It took me back to 2 experiences I had in the past.  Both of which I am going to share. Neither are the prettiest examples but they bear witness to the spirit of fighter I have re-ignited as of late.

The first experience happened probably in 1993/94. Not exactly sure.  Anyway, I was dating these 2 guys, a neighborhood guy (something I never did) and another guy who lived in the county I think.  Anyway, this neighborhood dude was very insecure and he swore I was messing around on him (which I was, but he didn’t KNOW for sure). He came to my house and disrespected me so bad that the only thing he didn’t do was actually put his hands on me.  I was so embarrassed and hurt. I didn’t know what to do.  Then something said, call the other dude.  Lawd, before I could get comfy on my steps he was in front my door demanding I take him to the first dudes house.  What have I done???? I mean one side of me felt good but the other side was scared as hell.  I didn’t want to be the cause of someone getting hurt, no matter what he said to me.  Long story short, they had words and I never talked to dude number 1 again. 

Fast forward to 2005 when the 2nd incident took place.  My oldest son was a freshman in High School and I received a call from my niecey saying “I just put Quan on the bus. He got banked and knocked out”.  WTH!!!!!!!! All those emotions a parent has when someone messes with their baby came up.  I was at that school Monday morning bright and early.  But I wasn’t alone.  Well low and behold, not only was Bubba and I at the school but the Brothers (FOI) were there too.  I can remember people saying OMG they look like the Black Mafia.  lol  I laugh now thinking about it but I guess seeing a group of men all in black trench coats and me in one as well, totally unplanned, it would appear as if we were making a statement. I’ll just say, Laquan had no more problems at that school.

The reason for me sharing these stories is to show that I have always been a fighter, not a physical knuckle up fighter (even though I’ve done that too), but a fighter nonetheless. A fighter against wrongdoing. This isn’t new for me. 

I know that if you live your life with the spirit of service and helping that in your time of need GOD will send aid your way.  And I also know that I will not be able to sit back and allow the City of Baltimore to chew away at my sons quality of living.  It can no longer happen.  Whatever I have to do personally to show them that I fight for them (fighting that REALLY counts), then it is done. Yes, it takes a village.  But that village must at least be on the same page with the same goal in mind or all is for naught. We must be coming from a place of love.  If there is no love then we’ve already lost.  This is not going to be pretty.  But neither is watching mothers bury their babies.  Just imagine a person addicted to drugs and how they fight with their family when its intervention time.  Eventually, with hard work, we can restore love back into our communities.  It starts with self- love.  I will do my part which first starts with getting my self (mind, body and spirit) ready for the fight.  I invite others to join in the fight.

Thanks for reading and Be Blessed!!!

Hugs and Love

~Kish

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May 19, 2013

INTERNATIONAL NATURAL HAIR MEETUP DAY 2013

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I know I haven’t posted a blog in quite some time but I had to take this opportunity to share.

International Natural Hair Meetup Day (INHMD) is an annual one-day event. Its purpose is to allow the opportunity for women across the country to meet in their own communities while networking, sharing and meeting (virtually) other women across the country participating in meetups on the same day. Natural hair meetups are events designed to share information, techniques, inspiration and products to aid individuals in their natural hair journey.

Last year I attended the INHMD event in Alexandria VA hosted by Pam of Koils by Nature.  The event was awesome. The only drawback was the drive, driving thru DC on a sunny Saturday afternoon was NOT the business.  So, this year I decided I would attempt to host one in Baltimore. 

While I’ve been naturals for over 10 years and I believe I’m a wealth of information, I’ve never actually hosted a Natural Hair Meetup.  I’ve attended my share but never pulled one off myself.

OK, let’s fast forward. 

I apply, get accepted, get that revoked and then get re-accepted. The event was offered to another group in Baltimore and the rules are events must be at least 50 miles from one another.  After speaking with Adeea (INHMD founder) it was decided that I could still host the event.  Once that was all worked out it was time to plan our INHMD  event for our Baltimore Naturalistas.

I know what I like to see/receive from a meetup so I figured it would be easy enough to execute.  Hahaha. I can laugh now.  While it wasn’t all that difficult planning, the execution was just the opposite.  I’m a Libra and a scatterbrain and I have self-diagnosed ADD. Needless to say, its hard for me to stay focused. 

First thing was to secure a venue.  In Baltimore. On Preakness Day. I couldnt find a venue. Just when I thought all hope was lost The Living Well kinda fell in my lap.  What a blessing. That Space was perfect and set the tone for what would be a beautiful day.

Next up, secure vendors.  Not a problem. I had some people in mind and they were all willing to bless us with their goods.  That was easy.

Next, sell out the venue. Lawd. Lawd. LAWD!!!!!!!!! That was NOT easy.  I’m thinking all tickets would be sold by April 30th.  Think again! I sold my last ticket about an hour before ticket sales ended.  Lol. Gotta love it!! Because of how the tickets were going, I decided to scale back. Initially I was shooting for 80 people. Then I said 70. My final thought was to cap it at 50.  Best decision made.  We were busting at the seams at 50.  God stepped in again. His hands were all over this event. 

About 2 weeks before the event I was contacted by a photographer who wanted to DONATE her services. DONATE. And she was phenomenal. 

OK, event day. Finally. We get in and get set up and I see the people start to come in.  I was touched to say the least.  Our Hostess with the Mostess, Sista Tracy gets the party started.  We have food, this awesome tea (makes u wanna drink it straight out the container) and the most gorgeous cake!  The ladies eat, mingle and check out the vendors. 

The energy was high.  The ladies were enjoying themselves. Everything was going great. My vision for this event was to be a social/networking event.  No one wants people standing in front of them ALL the time.  Sometimes we get more from the new sister sitting right next to us.  I was worried because I didnt have a set program and I’m thinking maybe that wasn’t such a good idea.  It actually was a good idea.  The day flowed. The energy stayed high. I would say to people when I was talking about my ticket sale struggle ‘whoever is supposed to be there will be there’. True statement!!

Now, while we’re having our Q&A session this guy comes in. Looks around. And then walks out.  And then comes back in.  I’m thinking he is casing the joint. I go over to talk to him and he actually came to offer us some free samples from a new line called Nene’s Secret.  WOW!!

Because the INHMD team workrd so hard we had TONS of giveaways. I like FREE STUFF. I also wanted to show my gratitude to those ladies that took a chance on this new girl on the block so to speak so i secured TONS of stuff to giveaway.  I also had some special thank you gifts for my volunteers and this one special gift that I presented to the first person to register. This was special to me because before this event I didn’t even know this sister.  While I was giving her the basket I BROKE DOWN!! Ugly cry and all!!! I’m such a cry baby.  Lol. But it was truly something to receive the support I received.  I am eternally grateful to Allah!!!

I met some beautiful women that encouraged me to continue to host events. They offered to help in many ways and were already talking about next year. 

I could not have done it without my sisters encouraging and motivating me, my mother for her support and help, my son who carried all the boxes, assisted with whatever I asked him to do, ran back and forth, was forced to be in a room of all women for over 3 hours (lol), my vendors – who went with the flow without a single complaint and most importantly to everyone who attended! When I say I do this because of you, I mean that honestly.  I love our world of natural hair and I want to share that love and appreciation with as many people as I can. 

Again I say THANK YOU. THANK YOU. THANK YOU!!!!!!

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March 15, 2013

*repost from March 14, 2010*

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***Tomorrow he’ll be 21 YEARS OLD, by Allah’s  (God’s) grace.  It took me a while to realize that his journey thru this thing we call life is just that, his journey.  It is my prayer, as it has always been that he makes decisions that are wise and beneficial to his existence. ***

A letter to my son.

March 14, 1992 I woke up needing to make a bm (or so I thought) but was unsuccessful. Mind u I was due to deliver a baby on March 15th. So I woke my mother telling her I had to use the bathroom but nothing would happen. She said “take a shower and get dressed”. I was in labor. Scared as all get out, I showered and b/c im nosey as hell i took a mirror and looked at myself. Well I thought I could see the babies head, LOL It was my water bag I later learned. So we call the midwife and they said just time the contractions but they didnt think anything was gonna happen any time soon b/c when they saw me the day before I showed no signs of labor. Needless to say those bastards were terribly wrong!!! GOD had his own plans that they knew nothing about. I can remenber spending the day eating, vomiting and running around the dining room table. Contractions are a son of a ______!

Well finally at 2am we head to the hospital. Yeah that means I was in labor the entire day!!!! When we get to the hospital they check me and tell my mother that the baby is breach and they are gonna have to turn him around. HUH??? U mean put ur hands in there and do what?? In the meantime I was being prepped and then the doctor had to break the water bag so they could get to work. In the little bit of prepping time my baby had turned around and nestled himself in the canal and was ready to make his debut. Was GOD present or what??? Oh yeah, did I mention I was 15 YEARS OLD!!! Talk abt scared!!!

Ok, so at 3:55 am I delivered a healthy 7 lb 12 oz baby boy that was just as nosey as his momma. He came out looking around and sucking his hands. All I could say was “HI” and goodnight I went. lol

On the eve of that baby boy’s 18th birth anniversary I just wanted to share my story and let him know that he came thru adversity and there is no task that he cannot accomplish with GOD’s permission!!! Stay strong and steadfast son, the world is urs…if u want it. May you be blessed and receive the favor of Allah (GOD) always!! I LOVE U QUANNIE!!!!!!

March 2, 2013

Shea Moisture Hair Color System -Review

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Since I didn’t have any plans tonight I decided to take a stab at the new SM hair dye.  I bought it like 2 weeks ago but couldn’t seem to find the time. 
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January 26, 2013

Reunited…And it feels so good!

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Lol.  I am a riot. 

Anywho, today I am enjoying my first cup of coffee since late December.  I stopped drinking coffee because apparently my thyroid is a hater and doesn’t want me to be great.  Lol. But  if you know me, you know I will find a way to rationalize any choice I make, good or bad.  Thus my cup of coffee.

The way I see it, I’ve been eating fruits and salads consistently since the first of the year and I figure my body can take a little coffee every now and then.  Hell, i ditched Pepsi! Cut the girl some slack!!!! Sheesh!

We shall see…… I’ll come back with an update.  Smooches!!!!

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January 17, 2013

A Mother Should NEVER Have to Bury Her Babies

Filed under: Uncategorized — naturallykish @ 10:56 pm

Time and time again because of the utter disregard for life, parents are burying their babies. 
There was a time when the young actually were allowed to live life without some asshole deciding to play God and take life.  Those days are way behind us and the
time we live in now, our babies are being murdered WHOLESALE!!

This subject hits so close to home that its sickening. I mean literally makes me ill.  On Friday, January 11, 2013 a young brother, my 21 year old nephew, Delroy Davis lost his life in these Baltimore streets.  He was seconds from his home and someone decided it was OK to kill him.  This young man wasn’t a street thug, a gang banger, a hell raiser, or a trouble maker.  He was a hard working guy coming home from work.

This shyt has to end!!!!! So many of our babies are perishing to senseless violence. THEY ARE OUR BABIES!!!!!  THEY ARE OUR RESPONSIBILITY!!!!! WE MUST PROTECT THEM!!!!! 

As my family and I prepare to return this young body to the ground I implore us all to do our part in saving a life.  Become a mentor, reach out to those lost family members and offer them an encouraging word, smile at someone instead of cussing them out, and most importantly Pray to God asking for an answer and then work feverishly to make a change.

There is a lesson in this for us because nothing happens without the permission of God.  That doesn’t mean it hurts any less…… Give your loved ones flowers while they are still here to smell them.  I love you all.

January 15, 2013

And then there were THREE……

Filed under: Uncategorized — naturallykish @ 1:21 am

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It’s been a little over a week since our sister abandoned us for the West Coast. Hmphfffffff

I cant speak for Tray and V but No, I’m still not over it.  I understand change and growth and all that malarkey but I’m still not completely over it.  Yes, I’m selfish.  Yes I want to be able to drive to “The Terrace” and she her chocolate face whenever I want.  Yes I want to be able to beat the crap outta my nephew (in love of course) just because.  Yes I want to be able to come over and get a chopped fish sub from Bro. David.  YES I WANT THESE THINGS!!!!!

But more importantly, I want my sister, my best friend, my confidant, my second mother (in her mind) to be free to expand her breasts and grow.  I want her to make decisions that are best for her family.  To be able to share the love that she has shared with us Baltimorons with the great state of California.  Her example of sisterhood is unmatched and I would be a fool to think that because she is 800 thousand million trillion miles away, that something would change.  lol  Yeah, I’m extra.   So what!!! lol

With that being said, I can finally say, enjoy California Reah!!!!! I love you and I pray to Allah that all your hopes and wishes come to fruition. 

I guess we can talk and Skype now….. HA

(I’ve been attempting to write this since Jan 5th)

January 12, 2013

Sometimes I actually blog about hair……..

Filed under: Uncategorized — naturallykish @ 4:33 am

Hahahahahahaha. I swear I crack myself up.

Well…….

From the title of this blog entry, you can tell it’s gonna be about hair.  I posted a pic of my hair on FB and my sis asked me what products I used, what i did, etc.  Since I dont Youtube (yet) I didnt document my process but I can type out my steps here.

So here goes,

On Monday I did a pre-poo using conditioner and castor oil.  I took large sections of hair, moistened with the conditioner and applied castor oil.  I then twisted each section.  I did not detangle my hair before doing my pre-poo.  Last night I shampooed my hair while it was twisted  with Garnier Fructris shampoo for dry hair.  Now, normally I would use my Trader Joe’s Tea Tree Tingle but b/c Ive used some new products and my hair hadnt been washed in a couple weeks, I decided to use something that would take care of product build up.  I then used my Tresemme’ Naturals conditioner. I smoothed it onto the twists, and put on my shower and steam cap.  I was being lazy and didnt feel like doing a deep condition (big mistake).  After rinsing out the conditioner I smoothed in some Aunt Jackie’s knot on my watch 12oz – Instant Detangling Therapy that I received in my December CurlKit.  Now, I was putting this stuff to the test since, like I mentioned before, I hadnt detangled my hair in a couple weeks.  Baby Jesus be kind!!!  Surprisingly, it actually worked. And well!!! THANKS CURLKIT!!! 🙂

Ok, so after detangling I noticed my ends were bushy as hell.  I dont know if it came from the shampoo, the fact that I didnt deep condition or the detangling product.  I decided that I would skip the rod set because I didnt have the patience to deal with those ends.  I had to get ready for Scandal.  lol So. what I did was smooth on some Olive Oil paying extra attention to the ends.  I then, smoothed in my Shea Moisture Curl Milk and then twisted my hair.  Since I wasnt pleased with my ends I decided to twist my hair in small twists and create an updo so I could protect my ends instead of my usual twistout .  I have attached a pic of the finished product.

I may start doing the ACV (apple cider vinegar) rinses for clarifying my hair instead of the harsh shampoos.  I honestly wanted to start the shampoo process over after feeling those bushy ends.  Hopefully its just my hair crying to moisture and they will revert back to normal after a couple days of TLC.

Thanks for reading.  Toodles!!

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December 7, 2012

Same, yet different

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I’ve been in a constant reflection period over the last month or so.  I was remembering that last year I said 2012 was the year of ‘shit or get off the pot’.

It was gonna be the year where all these changes were going to take place, how my whole life was gonna be different. 

Fast forward ….December 2012. Still living in the same apartment, driving the same vehicle, working the same job. But yet SO MUCH HAS CHANGED.

Oftentimes we ignore those things we can’t see or touch because its not physical or tangible but let me tell you I am not that same Lakisha of old. 

I’m not going to bombard you with all the changes that have taken place.  No need. Action speaks far louder than words.

I will say that I am so thankful for the experiences that have shaped me (good and bad) and the mercy of Allah, GOD that He wakes me everyday so that I may take another stab at this thing called life.

And I’m ever grateful for those special people placed in my life.  You all have undoubtedly helped me more than you will ever know.  I love me and therefore, can love you. 

Until next time…… Hugs and love!

Same, yet different

Filed under: Uncategorized — naturallykish @ 1:30 am

I’ve been in a constant reflection period over the last month or so.  I was remembering that last year I said 2012 was the year of ‘shit or get off the pot’.

It was gonna be the year where all these changes were going to take place, how my whole life was gonna be different. 

Fast forward ….December 2012. Still living in the same apartment, driving the same vehicle, working the same job. But yet SO MUCH HAS CHANGED.

Oftentimes we ignore those things we can’t see or touch because its not physical or tangible but let me tell you I am not that same Lakisha of old. 

I’m not going to bombard you with all the changes that have taken place.  No need. Action speaks far louder than words.

I will say that I am so thankful for the experiences that have shaped me (good and bad) and the mercy of Allah, GOD that He wakes me everyday so that I may take another stab at this thing called life.

And I’m ever grateful for those special people placed in my life.  You all have undoubtedly helped me more than you will ever know.  I love me and therefore, can love you. 

Until next time…… Hugs and love!

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